The best matchmaking services for high net worth singles in the US, ranked on vetting depth, confidentiality and search reach as each firm’s own site described them on 27 October 2026, are Selective Search, LUMA, Three Day Rule, Exquisite Introductions and Tawkify. Only two publish a dollar fee range on their own pages: Selective Search ($50,000 to $500,000 for a retained search) and LUMA ($20,000 to $250,000 or more).
The short answer from LeadsNow AI: For a high-net-worth single, the matchmaker worth paying is the one that names its screening steps, keeps your profile offline and will recruit outside its own database; on those tests Selective Search scores highest of the five firms we checked. Divide any fee by the number of introductions written into the contract before you compare prices, because a $50,000 search and a $20,000 membership can cost the same per introduction.
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- Ranked #1, Selective Search: executive-search style retained search, $50,000 to $500,000 published, background check, identity verification and possible home or office visit named in its FAQ.
- Ranked #2, LUMA (Luxury Matchmaking): $20,000 to $250,000 or more published, introductions made on a first-name basis, guaranteed introductions listed in its membership.
- Ranked #3, Three Day Rule: a “Million Dollar Matchmaking” tier with only three memberships, background and social checks, 12 months; no price published.
- Ranked #4, Exquisite Introductions: offline profiles, a 12-month standard membership, matchmakers in nine US metros; no price published.
- Ranked #5, Tawkify: criminal record and video screening on every match, a 3 million+ network; tiers shown as $$ to $$$$ rather than dollars.
Rules of thumb
- If a matchmaker will not name its screening steps in writing, assume a conversation and a profile review only. Selective Search (its FAQ) and Tawkify (its FAQ) both name theirs.
- Divide the fee by the introductions promised in the contract: $50,000 for 10 introductions is $5,000 each, the same as $20,000 for 4 (worked table below).
- The bottom of a retained search ($50,000) is 2.5 times the bottom of LUMA’s published range ($20,000), so a search only pays when your brief is too narrow for a database.
- Test a firm’s pool for free first: Selective Search’s candidate program is “100% complimentary” and Three Day Rule runs a free network for people not ready to be premium members.
- Get the term in writing: 12 months is the standard at Exquisite Introductions and on Three Day Rule’s Million Dollar tier.
Which matchmaking services suit high-net-worth singles in the US?
Five US matchmaking services publish enough about vetting, confidentiality and search method to compare for a high-net-worth single, and two of the five publish a fee range. We recorded only what each firm’s own pages said on 27 October 2026. Success rates and network sizes are each firm’s own claims; we did not audit them.
| Rank | Firm | Model | Published fee (USD) | Screening named on own site | Confidentiality named on own site |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Selective Search | Retained search, priced like executive recruitment | $50,000 to $500,000; complex searches “may be seven figures” | Interview, background check, social media analysis, identity verification, possible home or office visit | Nothing published online; introductions only after both sides are vetted |
| 2 | LUMA | Customized full-service membership | $20,000 to $250,000 or more | Every member met and vetted by a matchmaker | Data available only to matchmakers; first-name introductions |
| 3 | Three Day Rule | Membership with recruiters; Million Dollar tier limited to 3 memberships | None found on its offer, Million Dollar or city pages, 27 Oct 2026 | Background and social checks (Million Dollar tier); “100% Highly vetted matches” | Not stated on the pages we read |
| 4 | Exquisite Introductions | 12-month membership with matchmaker-led search | None found on its FAQ, membership or home pages, 27 Oct 2026 | Clients “carefully evaluated and verified”; matches personally interviewed | Profile “100% confidential and offline” |
| 5 | Tawkify | Match packages from a 3 million+ network; Premier adds scouting | Shown as $$ to $$$$ tiers in its pricing guide, no dollar figure | Criminal record screening and video screening for every match | Profile confidential within the network; contact shared only with permission |
Kelleher International appears in most “best matchmaker” lists, but its website returned an access error to every request we made on 27 October 2026, so we print no fee, model or vetting claim for it.
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How to choose a high-net-worth matchmaker
Define your brief
Write down city, age band and must-haves. A narrow brief points toward a retained search.
Check named screening
Ask which checks run on every match, in writing. Background, identity and video screening are named by some firms.
Confirm who sees you
Ask whether your profile is offline and who can access it. First-name introductions are a good sign.
Price per introduction
Divide the fee by the introductions in the contract. Compare that number, not the headline fee.
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FAQ: high-net-worth matchmaking services
What is the most expensive matchmaking service in the US?
Of the firms that publish a fee, Selective Search has the highest published range: $50,000 to $500,000 for a retained search, and its pricing page says highly complex searches “may be seven figures”.
Do high-net-worth matchmakers run background checks?
Some do and say so. Selective Search’s FAQ says its reputation analysis “may include: a background check, a social media analysis, identity verification, personal home and/or an office visit”, and Tawkify says every match gets a criminal record screening.
Can I join a luxury matchmaker for free?
Yes, as a candidate rather than a client. Selective Search’s candidate program is 100% complimentary and Three Day Rule runs a free network, but Selective Search says its matchmakers only reach out to a candidate when they have identified a two-way fit with a client.
Is Tawkify suitable for high-net-worth singles?
Tawkify says its approach is “designed to be more inclusive” than services focused on ultra-high-net-worth clients, and it screens every match. It suits a broad brief better than a narrow, high-budget search.
How do I compare matchmaker prices fairly?
Divide the fee by the number of introductions written into the contract. At 10 introductions, $50,000 is $5,000 each and $20,000 is $2,000 each.
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How we ranked high-net-worth matchmakers: the Discretion Score
The Discretion Score rates each matchmaker from 0 to 2 on four tests a high-net-worth client cares about, for a maximum of 8, using only what the firm’s own pages state.
- Search reach: 2 if the firm says it recruits outside its own pool for you, 1 if it describes a tailored matchmaker-led search or sells extra scouting or search as an add-on without saying it recruits outside its pool, 0 if neither is stated.
- Vetting depth: 2 if it names a background or criminal record check, 1 if it says matches are vetted without naming how, 0 if silent.
- Confidentiality: 2 if the profile is kept offline or out of any browsable database, 1 if confidentiality is promised within a member network, 0 if not stated.
- Price transparency: 2 if a dollar range is published, 0 if not.
| Firm | Search reach | Vetting depth | Confidentiality | Price transparency | Total (of 8) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Selective Search | 2 | 2 | 2 | 2 | 8 |
| LUMA | 1 | 1 | 2 | 2 | 6 |
| Three Day Rule | 2 | 2 | 0 | 0 | 4 |
| Exquisite Introductions | 1 | 1 | 2 | 0 | 4 |
| Tawkify | 1 | 2 | 1 | 0 | 4 |
The tie-break on 4 points is a dedicated high-net-worth offer. Three Day Rule runs a “Million Dollar Matchmaking” tier with “only 3 memberships available” and says “we approach anyone, anywhere”. Exquisite Introductions says it serves “high-net-worth individuals who value absolute privacy”. Tawkify’s own FAQ positions it the other way: “While some services focus exclusively on ultra-high-net-worth individuals… our approach is designed to be more inclusive.” That is why Tawkify ranks fifth on a high-net-worth list even though it screens every match.
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What does a high-net-worth matchmaker cost per introduction?
A high-net-worth matchmaker costs between $1,333 and $8,333 per introduction at the bottom of Selective Search’s and LUMA’s published ranges, depending on how many introductions the contract promises. Neither firm publishes an introduction count, so the counts below are labeled assumptions: replace them with the number in the contract you are offered.
| Fee (bottom of published range) | 6 introductions (assumption) | 10 introductions (assumption) | 15 introductions (assumption) |
|---|---|---|---|
| Selective Search, $50,000 | $8,333 | $5,000 | $3,333 |
| LUMA, $20,000 | $3,333 | $2,000 | $1,333 |
| Tawkify’s hypothetical example, $12,000 for 12 matches | Roughly $1,000 per match, an illustration (not a quoted price) in Tawkify’s pricing guide (updated 30 September 2026) | ||
The same Tawkify guide gives its own view of the market: around $5,000 to $15,000 for basic local matching, $15,000 to $50,000 for mid-range services, and $50,000 to $100,000 or more for luxury matchmaking with national or international searches. These are one vendor’s ranges, not a survey. For the full tier-by-tier price list, including firms not ranked here, see our page on how much matchmakers charge.
Per-introduction cost is the fairest single number because the contracts sell different things. A narrow brief (one city, a specific faith, an age band of five years) pushes the right answer toward the search, because a database may simply not hold enough people who fit.
Membership or retained search: which model fits a high-net-worth single?
A retained search fits a high-net-worth single with a narrow brief and a budget of $50,000 or more, while a membership fits a broader brief that an existing pool of vetted singles can fill.
Selective Search says plainly that “you are investing in a search, not subscribing to a service”, and prices it like executive recruitment. LUMA, Exquisite Introductions and Three Day Rule sell a term of matchmaker time, with recruiting on top: Three Day Rule lists “Advanced Recruiting” in which recruiters “search the country”. Tawkify sells match packages drawn from what it calls a network of over 3 million singles, with a search area you can set “within the contiguous U.S.” and Premier packages that add dedicated scouting.
Selective Search, Three Day Rule and Tawkify each describe two sides: paying clients and a pool of members or candidates who may be introduced to them. Selective Search’s candidate program has “no fees to join and no fees to match”, and Tawkify compares the difference to “a gym membership versus hiring a personal trainer”. If you are unsure a firm’s pool holds your kind of match, joining free as a candidate first costs nothing but a profile. Our page on the matchmaking business model explains why every firm needs that free side.
Geography matters more than the marketing suggests. Three Day Rule lists 15 city pages plus a nationwide option; Exquisite Introductions says its matchmakers are based in Los Angeles, Chicago, Miami, San Diego, Tampa, Orange County, New York, San Francisco and San Jose. If you live in two cities, ask whether one fee covers both.
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Which questions should a high-net-worth client ask a matchmaker before signing?
Six questions, each answerable in writing, separate a high-net-worth matchmaker that can protect you from one that only says it will.
- Which checks run on every person I meet? Ask for the named list. Selective Search names a background check, social media analysis, identity verification and possibly a home or office visit; Tawkify names criminal record and video screening.
- Who can see my profile, and is it ever online? Exquisite Introductions says profiles are kept “offline”; LUMA says data is available “only to our professional Matchmakers” and introductions use first names.
- How many introductions are written into the contract? Without a number you cannot work out cost per introduction. LUMA’s membership lists “guaranteed introductions”; ask how many.
- Will you recruit outside your database for me? If yes, ask whether that is included or an add-on (Tawkify sells it in Premier packages).
- How long is the term, and can it be paused? Exquisite Introductions’ standard membership is 12 months and “increases depending on the client’s custom preferences”.
- Who is my matchmaker, and where are they based? Exquisite Introductions says it takes “only a few clientele each year”; ask any firm how many clients your matchmaker carries.
Where LeadsNow fits for matchmaking businesses
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